Monday, January 30, 2012

These kids are alright

It was noteworthy enough when I went to the Rose Hills Theater at Pomona College was two weeks ago and found it packed with students. They were there on the evening before the first day of the semester at the colleges here in Claremont. This was certainly a far cry from when I was in college and would pile into the dorm at 10 p.m on the last day of a break.

They were all there to hear Tony Porter, a guy from New York who apparently goes all over talking about violence against women and why men, good men, like those in the audience, let it happen. He spent most of the time discussing what is in “the man box,” especially attitudes towards women and, just as importantly, acting like women. Very effective. The evening was sponsored by two student groups, including a fraternity. (Those interested in finding out more about Mr. Porter’s work can google “a call to men.”)

What was even more remarkable than all of this was when, at one point during the highly interactive presentation, he had three guys who had indicated that they were in love join him on stage and asked them who they loved and why. It turned out two of the men loved men.

There was no gasps, no giggling, no double-takes. Porter proceeded calmly with his questioning, just as he did with the guy with the girlfriend, and the two guys gladly and proudly explained why they adored their boyfriends.

Like nothing happened.

Yes, but, as I was reminded as I sat there all but breathless, things happen, and things change - things always change - and, for those who wait, are getting better and better.


  1. Well said, John. I was recently hanging out w/my nieces and nephews and the same non-chalance w/regard to gay stuff is now absolutely and gladly pervasive in their young lifestyles. Hurray for change!!!

  2. While I was in the PI, I found gayness at the open cultural perspective, as I noticed boys holding hands and tweaking of the nipples as they gazed at the American. I didn't mind the attention but couldn't help to think what a long way we have come as a culture where men can love men without rude discourse.